Other than the relationship you have with yourself, the relationship with your mother is the most important in your life and yes one of the hardest or and most challenging. The moments you have together with all the emotions, every single one of them. Sometimes all at once you have the feelings and emotions because you’ve just experienced one of your mothers situations that incorporate frustration, emotional manipulation and embarrassment with everything else going on, your anger is off the Richter scale, all because your mother knows how to irritate you with her guilt trips and exaggerations or when she is being impatient. Well my mother was always very impatient, so that in itself had it’s frustrations. Why do mothers bring out the craziness in you and in her?
There are so many reasons for our relationship with ours mothers being the most important. It’s the one relationship that stands the test of time. Most of the time for some. The fact that she carried you for 9 months and gave birth to you. She felt the most excruciating pain in labor, giving birth to you, only to forget about it, when you were born. This is a wonderful bond that with the right ingredients is unbreakable. Looking at life through the eyes of your relationship with your mother you most definitely laugh because she does crazy things. You will cry because she’s been there every time you’ve needed her. You will get angry because she can say things she really shouldn’t and you wished she didn’t and she wished she didn’t as well. Also when others upset her you want to protect her too. I know when we are born, the love of our mothers give and feel is unconditional. Even when you know there are conditions, lol. It is always life lasting, she is forgiving and always, always there when you need her.
The bond from birth or conception, when learning you are pregnant and having life growing within you is awe inspiring. Such a marvelous experience to feel them growing and watching your body change. Everything is enhanced when pregnant especially when in tune with your body. The experience is treasured. Think about it having life growing, evolving and changing inside the womb. That closeness creates the strongest bond and most people even with the hardest relationships with their mothers feel lost without her.
The delicate beginning of life that’s given to us. Our mothers feed us when we need, around the clock! change us! bath us! plays with us not to entertain us but because she’s in love with everything that we are, she’s simply enjoying us and the time together. Doesn’t that create the most amazing bond? The connection of mother and child in breastfeeding is special. It’s a connection that is not comparable it’s so unique, priceless. There is always a strong bond with mothers and their children. Our relationship with our mother is the most meaningful because it’s the first. Sometimes at some point we may not have that closeness you always had yet it can come back. That takes work from both of you. This is also when respect is always a factor. Things happen, we are human and mistakes are made so being forgiving is something we should always be. Understanding and reaching out is always a must. Clearing the air is done with active love, which mothers always show when raising us. Some mothers didn’t have any nurturing so they may not have been the mother you wanted, yet keep in mind that most of the time they did the best they could. As heartbreaking as things maybe be at times I am sure she wanted to be the best she could. Each child has a different and unique relationship and they are all as important as each other.
With everything we go through in life we should value our relationships with our mothers. We should understand that it’s to be treasured, appreciated and enjoyed. It’s a relationship that simply could never be replaced. It’s the most important in your life and you will be lost without it. You will be wishing and wanting it when she is gone. The pain of not having her can be unbearable at times yet you have wonderful memories. The support you received from her gives you comfort and the proudness of what she did for you and for everyone she new. The once in a life time experience, very individual that is to be treasured and cherished eternally.
I know that my relationship with mum was challenging and rewarding and every emotion all rolled into one and I am truly blessed and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Having lost my mum, my mother Lynette Marie Barrow my best friend only 5 weeks ago and 12/11/2021 being her birthday and the fact I can no longer buy her a present, which I love doing. I am writing this for her and even though she can’t read it, I hope she knew how much she meant to me and that I truly treasured our time together. When you lose your mum, you will never be ready. You will not ask everything you wanted to. You may not get to do all the things you wanted to. So have the uncomfortable conversations, do the things you want to. Be the daughter you want to be. If you still have your mother treasure her yet help her to become the best she can be. Love is unconditional when it’s a mothers love. You may be as challenging, frustrating and every emotion rolled into one and she wouldn’t have you any other way. A love for your mother is the crazy rollercoaster ride, so much so that when you say good buy and I tell you that, you don’t want to because it’s breaking your heart and your world will never be the same.
I dedicate this to my beloved mother Lynette Marie Barrow who is sleeping in the arms of God, her soul left this life on the 08/10/21 Wishing her what would have been her 75th special day on 12/11/46 I will miss you so very much and words cannot express the pain I feel. Yet I am filled with so many emotions because I was graced with your presence and having you as my mother, I thank God every day for having you in my life. I love you mum and I don’t know what I am going to do without you, At the moment I am lost. You taught me so much. My strength is your strength. I understand things because of your experiences. My heart is big and loves so much because of you. Thank you for everything. We will miss you eternally.
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