OK loving yourself is something we all should know about these day’s and I hope practice. Yet for generations it’s hasn’t been a focus because looking after everyone else before ourselves was a normal practice. For many years there has been a disconnect from all things natural, that having the time to yourself, for yourself. The original way, which is the natural way of healing was to connect to nature. In a book I read, the doctors, yes doctors used to prescribe to everyone who was sick in any, shape or form, mental, emotional or physical imbalances was to go seek nature, go for a walk in nature, meditate in the open air of creation. To just surround yourself in green goodness of nature and I still can’t believe that doctors used to be about healing, recommending time in the woods. That would not cost a lot, using nature as the medication and I love that. I think Doctors today need to get out of there narcissistic mindset. Western medicine treats everything with a pill and all those pills started from being herbs in a natural form yet because they are manipulated so much they become synthetic, something unnatural for us. That’s why there are side affects, when ingested the body doesn’t recognize it as natural because our bodies are intelligent and have an innate understanding, that’s why our bodies react badly to this type of medication. Our bodies have reactions to these type of medications, side affects because the body understands it’s foreign and is trying to protect the body. Since the modern age or era we have been disconnected from nature and with every generation we have gotten unnaturally disconnected even from ourselves. This was something that was intentionally done to separate humans from nature, from our mother-nature because when we are connected to nature we are connected to Gaia, our mother divine Mother nature, which connects us to all creation of universal energies, our creator and to everyone and everything through love. Pure divine love. Do you realize that nature nurtures and is necessary in relation to self-love and self-care. Looking at history and the age of modern man it is important to realize how they have distanced us for many reasons, the main reason is to strip people of their power, we have power when we are connected, we are void of power in disconnection. That is why people today are stressed, fatigued, emotionally exhausted, psychologically strained, over weight and overburdened by just about everything. This has been going on for a few generations and now for many they are at breaking point. Man is so manipulated, unhappy worker bee’s conforming is the norm.
Now more than ever people need self-love and self-care especially mother’s. In the last 20 years or so it has been becoming more and more frequently used term self-love yet is it being practiced and does everyone know the power that we all hold in our hearts, head’s and hands. It is time that this has come full circle in a way where we are wanting to go back to basics. Back to nature and the the natural progression is to come into a state of loving ourselves with tenderness and time. To teach love and show love to yourself, teaches it’s importance and it is up to our younger generations to give something back to our mothers, fathers, grandparents and great grand parents with showing the importance of self-love and showing them the benefits of giving to yourself. There is a difference with being narcissistic and just giving yourself time and loving compassion. Do you know with all the studies about humans and our need for connections that would resemble tree roots of energy. We need to be connected to ourselves, to everyone and everything and how do we do this? With love and giving yourself time in nature, go for a walk or sit in a park in the woods, national parks, rain forests, forests, go walk bare foot on the beach beach, or a swim in the ocean, lie on the grass and just look up into the sky and if you can lie on a cotton blanket under the stars of night and I know what your thinking, ah how beautiful the star’s are. This is an important part of giving yourself love and connecting yourself to Gaia, the universe and our loving creator opens us to endless love because it is continuous. That is the point of everything we are connected to everyone and everything when we give ourselves love, we share that love and the energy of love is the universal energies that flows through everything connecting all to the universal energy of love, Love is a the greatest of all emotions and the most powerful.
There are many way’s we need to be giving and showing ourselves love and doing that creates a flow on effect throughout all area’s of your life. So how, what, when and where should we be giving to ourselves? Every moment would be the ultimate goal yet this takes practice. So am I being selfish if I give time to myself instead of my family, children and husband ? No, is simply the answer because treating yourself with love, compassion and respect gains love, respect and compassion. Understand that everyone needs to give first to themselves, we need to love first ourselves only then can you truly love another with 100% of yourself. We don’t want to be selfish, that is not my point and if that’s what you are doing, there’s no love involved. My mother never told me you have to love yourself, she never said you need to give yourself time so you don’t stress or worry because she was not aware of this, there may have been women of my mother’s generation that were privileged to this information yet it wasn’t common and it’s simply wasn’t taught. Back then first in the 50’s women were house wives cooking and cleaning attending to the family yet looking like the Stedford wife, may have been able to have a bit of time to herself yet not what she really needed. In the 60’s thing’s started to change and women in the 70’s and 80’s worked and looked after the family. When did she have time for herself ? My mother went to the gym for a little while but I guess she never had the time and she stopped going. I remember her doing the clothes washing before work and when she got home from work she took them off, cooked dinner and put them away, then she did many other things as well. Many mother’s in the 70’s and 80’s had to work and then come home for the second shift and I feel it’s still the same if not worse now. So what did women’s lib and burning of the bras really accomplish? Because I think, confused thing’s more than helped. In my opinion. Back to my mother, even though my mum didn’t get to give herself the time and love she needed she instilled in me effort must be made and self pride. I know she may not of always felt that way but watching what she did and how she did these things. I am aware that she always looked healthy and feed us healthy food. One thing I do remember is that my mother when she worked in the hospitality industry in the 80’s she would be dressed like she would be going to an office job, a very nice dress and heals and her hair nicely done. That’s one thing I can say, I really think that was putting love into herself and those memories make me smile and proud because it taught me to always look your best and that she always did, look amazing just like Amanda from the television show, Who’s the boss. That’s what I remember. I don’t think feminism really thought about self love when implementing women’s right’s to work because what I see and experience women have to do so much more and if women choose to be stay at home mother’s, they don’t get super or benefits when they retire. Women had to look after everyone else first. Now we need to attend to ourselves first to keep our sanity, truth be known. It is not a crime to do thing’s for yourself. It teaches self-love. It teaches love.
How do you give yourself love? What is self-love? We know it’s important, necessary and true, unconditional love. Self-love is showing or giving what you give to your children. There is no love more unconditional then one for children. You totally fall in love with those precious, helpless beauties the moment you hold them in your arms. They simply take your breath away, your heart skips a beat and you cry with an overwhelming joy for this tiny human being. That is how you should love yourself. Just how you love your child or husband. Love is love and should always evoke something deep. Unconditional love. That’s what self-love is and how you give to others, give unto thyself.
What actions you can put into your daily, weekly, monthly, yearly routine to implement a consistent, continuous self-love, self-care to create abundance of love and everything else that comes with it. These thing’s will increase all things positive. Do you tell yourself that you love you? Don’t feel foolish, it’s important. Say I love you. Have you tried EFT, tapping or emotional freedom technique, it’s tapping on your meridian junction points, you say the phrase. I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Or I deeply and completely love,accept ,forgive myself for who I am and who I have become. You can do this every day. It’s very powerful when you use tapping for positive reinforcement. Tapping positive affirmations creates positivity.
Buy a book to journal in daily if you can, if not try weekly. When you put pen to paper it allows you to access emotions that are tucked away. You become more intuitive to yourself and it’s very rewarding. Don’t beat yourself up, if you don’t commit and are not consistent. Just be aware and mindful of what you can do. Positive affirmations are great, you can write them down and every day choose one or a few to say to yourself. By doing this you are creating good habits.
Being grateful and having a gratitude practice every day is a must, you can either write them down or say them to yourself or out loud. The choice is yours.
Eating healthy and making better choices are one the most beneficial things you should do out of love.
Exercise is something to love and know it’s addictive because it’s fun most of the time. Yoga, palates, walking, running, going to the gym or working out at home, rebounding, weights, what ever you find yourself doing make sure you enjoy it, so it’s worthwhile.
Meditation of some sort, there’s guided, transcendental, Om meditation, Kundalini, reading is a form of meditation. These days there are many types of meditation, so choose one that resonates with you.
Being creative is a very important in giving to yourself because creativity is door to a deep understanding of yourself and your innate gifts and talents. Trying different things will unlock a passion so deep and motivating. So what to try????? Art maybe painting, drawing, poetry, writing, spoken word, gardening, dancing, sculpting, mosaics, carving. There are so many way’s to be creative and by just diving into what intrigues you will be lead on a path of self discovery and open a door to a self-love so powerful that you will be in awe of your capabilities you never new you had. Being creative is one thing in this life that can guard you a world where everything is about manipulation, even in schools in many places they are trying to take out subjects of art, the less you are creative, the more easier you can be molded into what society wants for you, rather then what you wanted for yourself. So stop wasting time and get creative. There are many mediums so at least try as many as you can and you will find that innate talent and your inner creative self.
There are passions in you that you are aware of and then there are some deep within you, that you need to dig for or try different things you never thought you could do but can and realize there’s more to you and more to life. A lot more to help you spend time, giving to yourself and enjoy being you. It’s not enough to love ourselves, we must have fun loving ourselves . So we can put more fun into loving life and loving our family and friend’s and in loving ourselves. Love is so powerful, love is what holds everything together. All things are an expression of love. The universal energy runs on love. Love, love, love. What would life be without it? We are connected with the universe through love and to heal the world is to heal yourself. Only love can set us free. By changing ourselves, we change the world. Love is all and everything, so don’t you think that you are important enough to make sure you love yourself unconditionally. Self-love is not only important it’s simple. We were created in the image of God and if God is love then so are we. So why are so many people denying themselves of a birthright. It is encoded in our DNA. It’s because man has been distracted from purpose and become so lost that we need to go back and follow our original purpose, that is to live a life full of love, passion, kindness not greed and need for the unnecessary things in life. Self-love is self evident.
I could keep on writing about Self-love and the importance of self-care and how we’ve been distracted from the human purpose and have become detached from the earth and nature. Yet I think speaking about this topic creates a self awareness and you can explore it for yourself and your family because like my favorite self help go to person was Louise Hay and there are many others today. I am grateful to be on my journey and creating a life filled with self-love practices, that are turning into positive, loving habits. So I hope for you to start your journey, if you haven’t already.
Loving life one moment at a time.
Renae,
Lotus Flower . Live 
Self-love and self-reliance are two most important things a man should have to attain extreme happiness…
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